My thoughts are with you. Your mother is lucky to have you by her side during this time. My father took Chemo and made it through the hard times. After 9 years of off and on struggling with new treatments I finally got to him. Whether going through all the Chemo was worth it or not was his choice. He had good times visiting family out of state and going traveling. Follow your own heart as it sounds that you are. God bless your family.

Princess, you will never be sorry for for spending this time with your mom. Stay strong, take care of yourself, and bless her with the the goodness you have within you. Stop in when you can. We'll be covering all of you in prayer.

Princess, that is such good news that your relationship with your mother has turned into a complete circle. I wish you strength and a meaningful heart filled time with her.

Thanks to all. Thus far my mother is refusing any form of chemo as she did 20 years ago when she had breast cancer. This current cancer is metasticized breast cancer. The pits. Thanks for your prayers and thoughts.

Lynnie, good to hear your relationship is healing. I am keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Our parents are going to do what they want when they get these diagnosis (what's plural for diagnosis?). Anyway, I think you should let her do as she pleases. Sometimes I w ish Mom hadn't chosen treatments because she was so weak and sick for a lot of her last 6-7 months on earth.

Blessings to you and your Mother.
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Lynne, just popped in and read your post. I'm so sorry. I lost my mother 2 yrs ago from lung cancer and she also decided not to have any treatment. She wanted to be as active and able to enjoy life as possible for as long as possible. It will be a hard road and if you have the ability to stay with her for this time I would imagine you won't regret it later.

I also sat down and and made a list of every memory I had of my mother, before the disease left me with a lot of memories I knew I wouldn't want to dwell on right away. It helped me.

I will be praying for you.

starting over, what great idea to make a list of every memory. Did you do it in chronological order?

Starting Over, that really is a good idea about writing down the memories...one of the most agonizing problems in my early grief right now is that all or most of my memories center around my brother's cancer - he lived for 43 years and had the cancer for only 8 months of those 43 years, but it's all I can remember right now...his pain, discomfort, disfiguration and gradual disintegration. And when I try to remember his life BC (before cancer), my mind just flips those memories forward into the cancer memories. Very frustrating. I know it will pass and eventually the other memories will hold their own special place in my mind, but right now it's not working. If I had something in writing, it would probably force me to move beyond the cancer memories and remember the better times in his life.