It's just beating a dead horse. I was separated for three years before the divorce. I finally came to the conclusion that I couldn't live that way. I was half in one world and half in another. I didn't fit right in either one. I decided that if we were not going to live like a married couple, then I didn't want to be married. It had nothing to do with abuse or finances, but he did have someone else. I found it hard to move on that way.