It´s not over yet, you write. Just wanted to say..but your probably know this, you seem to be so aware and close to your son..that it will never truely be over. He may find himself battling with feelings and fears from this time during other occassions in his adult life. My children lost their sister many years ago and they have had to seek help (some of them) during different times of their lives..one such time was when they each turned 18. Another was when my husband and I got divorced. I know this girl wasn´t a relation, but the experience was pretty traumatic and this can cause death anxiety, etc. later on. I am not trying to paint the picture black because these difficult times can, of course, help your son grow in depth and give him a special kind of empathy and humility towards life and those near to him. But maybe I am just trying to give you a thought to bear with you as the years roll by. You are a very special mom and you are there for him now..and perhaps in the future again, to let him know that his feelings and fears are normal and a natural progression of what he went thru at this present time. God, talk about time progression! I hope you understand what I mean.

Sending all my love to a very loving mom and her very fortunate sons..