Several answers here, I hope.

Dotsie, the best thing anyone could give me when I was having my radiation treatments was a hug. One thing Chuck and I found -- and we've since heard from other cancer patients -- is that a lot of people you know will back away from you when they find out you have cancer. You need to accept that they can't be there for you and go on, being grateful to those who can.

I got lots of cards and notes from friends, which I kept with me in the apartment we stayed in in Boston for those 5 weeks. I also used coloring books as art therapy.

There are many cancer suport groups on the internet. Chuck actually owns one for cancer survivors that used to be very active. Now it's pretty quiet, because most of us are too busy celebrating life to spend much time there.

Yes, people talk about their problems in support groups. They also comfort each other and offer encouragement. Chuck and I were invited to this one because we've been cancer-free for a while and do a lot of volunteer work for the American Cancer Society. I have find that people whose lives have been touched by cancer share an instant bond. At least the ones I've met do.