The following Scripture seems to be the one used to indicate that women are to be 'subjected' to their husbands, no matter how unloving they might be.

But the Scripture actually directs 'submission' to a husband who loves his wife as Christ loves the Church. Christ's love for the Church or love of any kind for that matter is liberating, not enslaving. Thus to submit oneself as directed in the scripture is to give oneself as a gift of love. It is almost the direct opposite of 'subjecting' oneself to the control of selfishness.


22 Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, 23 for the husband is head of the wife as also Christ is head of the church. He is the Savior of the body. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as also Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her. (Holman Bible)