Back again. Been busier than I thought this week, but life is like that sometimes.
Celtic, you're doing pretty good, gal. Chick, at least you're doing something creative on your table! Those pics are wonderful! Everyone -- happy to be of inspiration where I may
There were two parts to the 3-week clean-a-thon: attitude; and specific plans of action. I'll start with attitude.
Cleaning has always depressed me. Filing things has always depressed me. Organizing depresses me (unless it's beads, and then I'm good to go.) But the problem with being depressed about all this stuff is, it never gets done. And then it just gets worse, and I'm overwhelmed, and then I get depressed some more. And then I avoid doing that stuff, because of all of the above. Sound familiar to anyone here?
So the first thing I had to do was break out of that cycle, which is basically a rut.
At the conference all weekend, I kept saying that my biggest problem was time management -- time management being a buzz word for all that cleaning-filing-organizing stuff that I hate. And then something funny happened -- on the last day of the conference, pretty close to the last hour, I stood up in front of everyone and announced that time management was no longer my problem, because I had it under control.
Just like that. A public declaration that I could do something which I had never managed to do before. And in announcing it, I committed to doing it.
And then I wrote down: "My time is valuable. My time is my life. Every moment I waste time, I waste the gift that life has given me.
I will not waste time, because I'm more precious than that. I will not waste my life, because life is precious and I am precious, and I deserve better than to be wasted.
I control my destiny and I control my time. Whatever time I have been given in this life, I will use it wisely."
I repeated this aloud the whole time on my drive home, about 1 hour, while thinking about all the things I was going to do. I imagined myself succeeding --
not being overwhelmed -- and told myself that it was no longer a problem.
In other words -- instead of thinking about how I had failed in the past, I envisioned how I would succeed in the future. Instead of being overwhelmed by the task, I told myself I was stronger than the task. I renamed it -- the chores went from "impossible" to "no problem."
And I did it. Three weeks worth. (Had to do a bunch of jewelry catch-up this week.) Like boulders were lifted from my soul. And tomorrow's chores? No problem. They will be done.
YOUR ASSIGNMENT: Write down whatever you need to do. Keep it in perspective -- this is not cancer, it isn't a child on drugs -- it's
CLUTTER, okay? And you are better than that. And stronger than that.
Then write down a statement of empowerment. You can use mine above, or make up your own. Print it out. SAY IT OUT LOUD. Again.
And post it here, in the Forums, where 1000 women will read what you wrote and hold you to it.
Because we believe in you.
next post: some of my how-to's.