Hi Dianne, I think that women are born with natural care taking skills. As early as one and a half to two we are carrying our dolls and wrapping them in their blankets, giving them their bottles and even wanting to change them. I think these skills are just taken for granted too often. As we get busier and busier we often neglect ourselves. We become super moms because there is just so much to be done. And, good little care takers that we are, we try to do it all. Now, this is just another of the many good reasons to learn gratitude. We all want to feel appreciated. It is important for us to learn to appreciate ourselves. Especially if we are in an enviornment where we do not feel appreciated. Until we stop and appreciate ourselves, others won't appreciate us either. I have learned to appreciate and love myself. In this way I do not have to seek love outside of myself. And ironically I have more love coming to me now than I ever did before. Until gratitude became an unconscious habit for me, I did not know gratitude. Now there isn't a day in my life without gratitude. Thank you for asking this question. Kathy