Gimster, actually I think the more we expect, the more we will have to be grateful for in our lives. The less we want and expect, the less we will get. It only makes sense, the more we want and expect, the more we will get.

The second question is more difficult, but I believe there is always some aspect of any situation that calls for gratitude and celebration. A couple of examples:

My husband has fast progressing parkinsons disease. I am grateful that he was diagnosed and able to receive medication that keeps him moving. I am grateful that he has good insurance that covers much of the costs of his physical and speech therapy. I am grateful that he loves me and I love him and we are able to find many ways together to keep positive and moving forward.

My mother has been diagnosed with Alzheimers. I am grateful that my father is still with her and loves her and takes care of her the best he can. I am grateful that she has been in my life and is still alive and healthy. I celebrate what she has been, and continues to be, for all of those people that have been lucky enough to be in her presence.

Lastly, I had a near death heart attack. I am grateful (and by the way, even felt this way at the time) that I had great treatment and they saved my life. I am gratful for medication and the ability to make positive changes in my life. Again, I am grateful for health insurance.

Look at the bigger part of the situation and see what you can find to be grateful for somewhere. Once you find one thing, you will see more. I KNOW you can do this gimster; I just know that you can!