New Attitude,

I also am in the same boat, getting a divorce after 24 years. My biggest regret? When the sheriff served the serach warrant and found the child porn on his computer, I immediately changed the locks and refused to let him into the house. What I wish I had done was call a moving van and vacated the property. Why? Because he has used the house and mortgage as leverage against me for a year and a half and I still haven't gone to court. Now they are telling me April 7th. He knows I can't stand to be late on bills, knows I feel terribly guilty when obligations aren't met. He hasn't helped pay any bills because "why should he -he isn't using the house..." If I had left I might still have had to help pay the mortgage and might still have felt guilty if I couldn't make the payment, but I wouldn't have been locked in a power play about the house. Now he will be sentenced to prison on April 21 and I will be left with foreclosure, bankruptcy and (unless the judge gives me everything in his bank account-whatever there might be) nothing. 24 years and I am going to walk away with my clothes and personal items and that's it. At 49 I will have to start from scratch.

I STILL think we need a website where women can report these horrible men to protect the next woman they target.....