Hi there everyone. I havea serious question. I claim to be separated which I am. I have been for 4 yrs. I was thrown out the day before thanksgiving. The decision that lead up to being thrown out was spontanious to a degree but may have been coming on and unconsiously been triggered before that faithful night. Now I need help.

Let me give you all a brief background. I lived with an abusive man, although he was a good dad,I was not a good mom. He was mentally and emotionally abusive since about the third year of our marriage yet I stayed thinking I needed him and "I could change things" Now 4 years later and several states away , I am finally ready to break the marital connections and get my freedom and name back. But being in Kansas and he in Colorado I havent been able to get any help.

I hope I am not opening myself up too much, I have kept this too myself for a very long time because I was afraid to be judged harshly. But I am (I think) strong enough to seek help and a divorce freeing myself from night mares and dreams of a failed marriage. My children were never in danger, if that makes since

If you can help please let me know.

Thanks , Debi