We have to remember that abuse is about control so I'd say he's using verbal abuse to control her. Yeah, he has some serious issues, that's for sure. But, if we accept their bad behavior, it's a clear sign that they can continue with it.

I worked with a woman years ago who had a husband that talked to her terribly. Called her horrible names, etc. but she didn't want to leave him. I sent her to a great therapist and she started telling him that his actions were abusive and she wasn't going to tolerate it anymore and if he didn't like it, he could get out! He stopped and today, they have a great marriage.

We always need to stop questioning why these men do what they do and ask ourselves why we put up with it. That's where we find the truth and freedom.