I too agree Sue that honesty is so needed for a person to heal. In the forum here I fear too many only hear what others think they want to hear and not the real cold hard facts they need to help them heal. I was lucky enough to have people who loved me enough to give me those hard facts and it made me see I was killing myself with self pity and in my case that was all wrong. I try to speak honestly, helpfully when asked for advice and get rejection and mud slinging in return. Has that ever happened to you?