Hi Unique, that is a good question with a not so good answer. As a social worker, I facilitated groups for abused women. Across the hall, a group for "men who batter" was conducted. These men were court ordered to attend the weekly sessions and had to pay a fee to be there. The man who faciliated the men's group was an ex-marine and a chaplain. I asked him how he measured the success of the program. He said that there was no good way to measure it, that he really did not know who went home to offend repeatedly, unless of course the abused women pressed charges again. I asked the facilitator what his rewards are, considering the high recidivism rate of abusers. His said he can only hope that his program helped. I know of one woman whose father attended the program, and she reported it did help him to change and break the cycle of abuse because he was 1) voluntary 2) in counseling. So the motivation to change was different for this man. The restorative justice system claims that victim statements presented to abusers help. I was invited to present a victim statement to a prison group, but I could not go through with it, even though I would have had a nun turned social worker, a warden, and a chief of police to escort me. I could not face a group of batterers in the prison environment. My professional and personal opinion is that men who abuse don't change, unless divine intervention is involved. The bottom line is that it is the victims who have to change their enviornment. I'm sorry for the unfortunate response.