On the other hand, I think I would like to judge what is NOT normal. It is NOT normal to engage in deviant behavior that holds potential harm for others. I am thinking (reluctantly) about Michael Jackson, who says that sharing a bed is the most loving act. It depends on whom you are sharing it with! Sharing his bed with boys is NOT normal by anyone's standards: it is deviant and harmful. What is not normal is the destruction of self and others. By these standards, if we want to, we can consider ourselves normal, and that is certainly good enough.