Dian, I also thought normal was all of the above: no divorce, no DV, no abuse, etc. I’m sorry you experienced all of the above (and I thought I was the only one….) You were thrown into adult duties as a child, which is not fair, is it? It’s awful that your boyfriend had his father commit suicide in front of him. How does a young man heal from that? Your other friend has no right to judge what is normal. I’m glad to hear you express that your normal is a sense of being okay with yourself and the world. And you are a young boomer, my friend!