LOL, Chatty..."throw a thousand names in a hat and pick one and live with it,"....that really is pretty much what you get with the Internet singles sites. I want to share one experience I recently had thru Yahoo Personals. I corresponded with this man sporadically for several months, touching base in a friendly manner. We finally, about a month ago, met for dinner. "Vince" didn't appeal to me at all, but he stated he wanted to continue seeing me. I went online to do a search to see exactly how many singles sites he had his profile posted on. On one of the singles sites, I think it was Mingle, there was a link to "adult" singles sites. I had never looked on something like that before, but there was Vince, showing his face stupidly with the same picture he had posted on Yahoo Personals. This adult sites, called Adultfriendfinder.com is a pornographic site in which men (and women!!!) display their genetalia! I had no idea such a thing even existed on the Internet, but the data said in my state alone there are over 80,000 members.
Vince continued calling, leaving messages on my answering machine, since I didn't answer, and emailing. Finally, I wrote him a brief note telling him I had discovered his posting on the porn site, and not to contact me again. It is really hard to tell how many men who post on the "legitimate" singles sites also have their profiles on pornographic sites, but I am thinking there are many, many.
ARI