sug, I'm sorry you are hurting.

You are entitled to maintaining the house rules within your home. I belive your kids will thank you one day. For now, stand firm.

Look for a window of time when both you and your daughter are enjoying one another's compnay. When the timing and moods are perfect, broach the subject of house rules. I bet she'll understand why you shouldn't have to do all the laundry. Isn't it amazing how something so simple can cause such a stir?

I would focus more on your daughter and less on your siblings. She is your first priority.