Evie,
To me, learning to forgive and forget is just that. A learning. In my opinion, when you focus on helping others, you cannot help but be filled with pure joy and love which is what it's all about.

You feel their pain, and realize that you can be instrumental in helping to ease that pain. By taking the emphasis and focus off of yourself, and by giving and serving others, you LEARN to forgive and forget because your heart is too full with love to feel the past and it's negative influence. At least, this has been my experience. I hope this helps in some way. [Smile]