Dotsie, I have to laugh, because I've started several responses to this, asking (using various different words) about the chores that aren't as much a choice as they are a burden of responsibility. But the more I tried to wiggle out of it, the more it became obvious that even doing onerous chores that we think we "have to do" is a choice. Everything does come down to choosing one action over another, or choosing one set of circumstances that require that certain actions (chores) be done. It's not easy confronting oneself with that reality, especially when we don't always like the choices we've made - or the circumstances those choices have put us in - but there's no escaping the truth.