By applying to others the same patient mercy that God has always shown me, even (especially) when I least deserved it. I try to live that mercy out concretely in my daily encounters by looking beneath the surface of people's words & actions and allow myself to hear the history, anxiety, mangled thinking and woundedness that lies behind their anger, intolerance, rudeness and grouchy moods. It doesn't always work, but it always reminds me to pray for the other person and for my own growth in learning how to love and forgive.