Lost my husband Oct of 2011, 8 months later started seeing a guy who didn't really commit until he had lost his other girlfriend (death), Sept of 2012. Too this day we both have done a lot for each other however, the steam in our relationship has gone. I still need steamy!! & he's beginning to annoy me at every turn. Yesterday I met with the steamiest man of my life, who I had not "been with" since before I married my husband of 30+ yrs. Oh my, the passion is still there and he's actually more my type. Even though I'm single, I still feel guilty and yet excited. Problem is to have the old flame come to my house, I've got to let this non-passionate yet great friend go. I don't want to be unfair to either of them. Any advice on what I should do. No passion and have a farm hand who sleeps with me and snores, always around when I need him or go for the passionate guy who I can see a few amazing times a week.