You are right, of course. Talking over final arrangements is a wise thing to do. I had a dear friend who spelled everything out in writing. Exactly what she wanted done and exactly how she wanted it done. None of that took place, however. So I guess that's why I'm soured on the concept. But, regardless, it is wise
to plan ahead.
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