I understand, Jabber. I don't know that it is easy for any of us to discuss our own deaths. But if we have strong ideas about what we'd like or not like, it makes sense to let folks know...

And maybe it is one of those things we can easier discuss if we are totally healthy and just talking in the abstract. In other words, the sooner the better.

Perhaps by starting out to talk in generalities about what you liked or didn't like at a funeral you attended.

Or try talking about some celebrity funeral. I wrote an interesting post about that after Michael Jackson died. Here's the link to that post.
Boomer in Chief of Boomer Women Speak and the National Association of Baby Boomer Women.