You have been on a roller coaster of a year.Both of you have had losses.The people you have lost also adds to grief.
During grief we function to survive and you acted by RV living.The future awaits.
The elder people have needs..do you want to provide this or arrange this..the children have needs and you could help but so can others..could you daughter move nearer.

what would have happened if your job had not been lost..
would you resent being needed.
Time flies past and we often dont get a second chance to help our elders..
you will have thought all these things..
do ask the posters here how they have adapted to change...for sure change does come along