Oh, dear, I'm sorry Judym went away because she brought up a very important topic. I was out of town for a few days and didn't get to come back with an observation, for what it's worth:

I would never suggest that anyone who has had a lifelong struggle with anything would be able to read a few articles and 'get over it.' But we all have to continue to reassess ourselves in terms of life goals, family, and personal satisfaction. My big point is this: sometimes what we consider to be perfection isn't. Sometimes, it's internalizing a list of 'shoulds' and 'be a good girl' kind of stuff that is very insidious and destructive to the human spirit.

My personal stuff is that, when I see a picture of myself, I wonder who that old bat is. Surely that cannot be me! I'm active and busy and fairly fun; doesn't that mean I should look younger? (Well, no, but it seems unfair.)