I guess it's kind of like having children. If you do not want children, you should not be having them.

If you like living alone or being a "friend with benefits," and that works for you, then that's what you choose.

I lived alone for 10 years before the first (20 year) marriage, and 2 years alone before the second marriage. One thing I learned was that while I really did LIKE being alone, I LOVED being part of a totally committed relationship even more.

As many cheaters as there are out there, I also correspond with divorced/widowed men and women who are well into their late years who want to share their remaining years with another sincerely available partner.

We go around one time. So it's up to us what we make of our short time here. I support whatever works for you, and if that happens to be a partnership of some kind, I hope both partners are free to commit without reservation. JMO