What a question that is so hard to answer. I was head-over-heels in love with my husband when I met him in 1984. I made a list of 21 characteristics of what I wanted a man to bring to a relationship, and 21 characteristics of what I would bring to a relationship. These were not short words, but long thought out sentences. Yet I think I have changed, or grew, or stretched, or something. I'm pretty sure I've been in a marriage of convenience for quite some time. I've tried the grateful What a sentence... I have to TRY. This is the very topic I was going to bring up with my therapist tomorrow. I'm pretty sure that I would feel like JJ if I had money. I'm pretty sure I would not be on e-harmony! But I would not be isolated either. I would like some social activities, such as in a neighborhood where Chatty lives.