Thanks Bug.. less than a pack yesterday..
Smoking can prevent a bad situation from esculating. For example, on more than one occasion in the past, i had wanted to holler 'you g.. d..... ignorant, mean, bullying moron !!! "
Now that would obviously make matters worse, of course i'd tried 'discussing' in a reasonable way first, i am not stupid. So, i'd say nothing, light up a cigerette and try to change the subject.
"The wisdom to accept the things i cannot change," for me means, i can accept that somebody can be a mean, bullying, moron, but "to change the things i can" means, neither i, nor any one under my care is going to be a target any more.