As a former smoker I can honestly say I probably bothered many people. Smoking is very selfish. It robs us of fun times because we're thinking of how to get away and smoke. We don't finish our meals so we can feed the moster when it calls. If we're in a non smoking environment, we aren't that comfy because the addiction is calling to us. It steals from our lives.

I think the comment made to your son is a college thing. Immaturity.