My step-father needs a new heart, and mine is breaking. I just don't have the appropriate words, for anyone, in this matter. Just so scared for him, my mother, and all involved. He does not listen to the doctor which has complicated matters. He's afraid he will not survive the surgery and leave my mother destitute. My mother will need someone to financially take care of her b/c she will only have social security. I'm not ready for this. But, that's not why I don't want him to die, I want him and everyone to live a long and productive life. His two children are not financially responsible and often 'borrow' money and don't pay it back. Ditto for my sister. Although I do not have a close relationship with my mother and step-father, nor siblings, that distant relationship does not deter from the fact that I do love them.