Calico Kate,
Hair becomes drying during Menopause. We must use more and better products to keep our hair soft and in good condition.

Have your hair cut every six weeks, at least a trim.

Be careful of over the counter hair dyes, they have metal in them so if you use them, only use them on your roots and cover all of your hair about every 6 months. It's better to use salon colour though.

One of the best products for wiry hair is Chi hair oil. It can be found on the web for less than it sells for in salons. Chi is the best oil for taming your hair.

Be careful of heating dryers, irons, straightening irons. Use Chi oil or a protectant on your hair before you use them.

If possible, wash your hair only when it is dirty, not every day. Our hair does not need to be washed as often as most Americans wash their hair.

Try to find a style with the least upkeep.

ONLY use products for colored hair or damaged hair. If your hair is coloured, use products for coloured hair and if it is not but just dry, use a product for dry and damaged hair.

I'd be happy to give you some names of products if you need them, even some URLs.

I hope this helps,

Dancer9