Kathryn, haven't faced it yet but it is one I think about since my dad is a widower and my husband's parents both live alone.

I have a cousin who is doing this and she has a separate section of the house which is nice because they come and go through different doors, have their own kitchens, etc. Everyone seems to be happy because they are there for one another as needed, but not on top of each other. She is on top of her parents health issues and truly looks out for them. They help her with her son too so it is a nice set-up.

I think the best way to go about it is to be extremely open and honest with your mom (and her with you) so you know each other's expectations, needs, desires, etc.

It's nice that your mom doesn't want to be a burden to her kids! [Smile]

[ July 11, 2003, 10:41 AM: Message edited by: Dotsie ]