Bookie, it saddens me to hear of your marital problems. I'm hardly in a model marriage, so some may say that I'm not the best one to give advice.

BTW, it was 29 years on Monday, and I'm not sure if I'm looking for congratulations (for having survived this long) or condolences. I basically call this the Dysfunctional Marriage From Hell. I've written a lot about it in here before and you've read my poems, so you see some of the issues. My husband loves me but he has too many problems that he's unwilling to deal with. He thrives on unhappiness and anger. I can't fix him and I no longer try.

I've learned to walk away from the fights and find my own life. I had to stop caring too much because I just got hurt. Now he complains that I ignore him most of the time. Well, DUH.

The biggest problem with our marriage all these years is that only one of us thinks there's a problem.

I wish you luck.