Help!

oh my!

Maybe I've been visiting a different planet, but it seems some topics have vanished.

"First kiss...best kiss...."

".....bag of tricks"

Am I losing my mind?

Danita

Damta.
I went to look for that topic in remember thread and can't find out where it went . What happen ?

I was searching for them too and even opened every single thread one by one. Someone PM'd me to look at one where I was accused of being overly sensitive. Not so, just did not particularily agree with the way someone stated a fact incorrectly even after someone else mentioned it nicely to her. Oh well, who knows? I believe the person starting a thread can delete it, but don't quote me on that because I am not sure. I know for a fact Dotsie as Administrator can. Hey you win some and you lose some, thats life!

[ October 10, 2005, 11:44 PM: Message edited by: chatty lady ]

I did a search for the "bag of tricks" topic, and the search engine found it, but then said it didn't exist, which I think is what it says when the first post of that thread has been deleted. It seems that many posts by this one poster have been deleted in the past couple of hours.

That is such a shame, I tried to get her not to "leave", I even emailed her and asked her to reconsider.

So, the person who starts the thread, deleates THEIR posts, and all of ours disappear also?????

Even the records of MY post are gone from my profile and recent posts page.

perplexing!

Dotsie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

d.

[ October 11, 2005, 01:24 AM: Message edited by: Danita ]

After reading this I looked around to see if I could figure what you all were talking about. Indeed there are many topics and posts missing. I've seen this happen before when the poster requests to be deleted from the registered user list, but this person is still registered.

I'm sorry she got upset and left.I hope she'll be back. There should be room for all kinds of women in here, including women going through personal crisis and unhappy moments. I have seen a low tolerance level for women having mid-life *issues* that they can't deal with. There is a lot of good old American pull-yourself-up-by-the-bootstraps advice in here, which is not always an option for women in a emotional quandry. Sometimes we haven't got what it takes to make that happen.

I agree that there's always room for more compassion when dealing with each others' emotional crises. We are sometimes quick to pounce on what we see as the most logical solution or best way for that person to go. We do so with sincere care and genuine desire to help. But the reality is that it's not always possible for the person mired in that quicksand to follow the advice given. And I've seen some impatience here when that happens, when we think someone isn't taking our advice quickly enough.

Healing always takes time...some more than others. When we've offered our wisdom, if we truly want to be compassionate healing women for these wounded others, our role ought to then become (IMHO) that of "companions-along-the-way" while those women find their own way out of their quandaries. When we try to push people in the direction we think they should choose, we often end up pushing them further into their darkness.

Having said that, I think that when a person leaves and takes their posts with them, it's possibly indicative of the anger and hurt they feel, but taking EVERYONE's posts (i.e., the entire thread) with them seems rather vindictive to me...but I'm trying to keep an open compassionate mind.

I too saw the warning signs but didn't really know how best to handle the impending departure. I too hope she'll be back. This really can be a healing place if we hang in here long enough to see the genuine love and care behind the wisdom of the women here.

PS And now I have to do my own vanishing act for awhile...we have to go back to Montreal to lay some laminate flooring...don't know when I'll be able to get online to participate in this thread again. But I'll be back!

[ October 11, 2005, 10:05 AM: Message edited by: Eagle Heart ]