JJ, please keep your emails in the event the refund is a no-show, too. Perhaps you could write your credit card carrier and file a complaint asking for a refund. Best of luck!

Let's see if I'm following this straight --
The women who shoveled one bad excuse after another at you for 3 months, is sending you a refund check.

I'm giving 2-1 odds that the check DOES NOT arrive in 10 days. I'm giving even better odds that she says the check was lost in the mail.

And if in some alternative universe the check actually does arrive, I'd be leery of cashing it.

If this EVER happens again (to anyone here), demand that the funds are reinstated into your paypal or credit card account. That way you're not running the risk of a bad check along with all the other garbage.

Well Meredith, you may be right. No check so far. If it doesn't arrive soon, and I mean VERY soon, I will be revealing this person's name and business for the world to see.

I've been pushed about as far as I can be pushed.

I'm sorry that you are going through this JJ! Good luck!

Here is what I would do. It's the process my lawyer has told me to do and it worked recently, but didn't work with one other person.

Don't wait send her a certified letter stating what has happened, what has been done to date and giving her 14 days to send you a certified bank check or money order or you will take legal action.

Get the letter certified. Send it.

Then if you don't hear from her in 14 days send a copy of the letter with a copy of correpondance noting where she tells you that she'll do the kit, send you refund, etc. to the BBB in her area.

AND put a complaint on a page on your website.

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Last year, I had a situation with a VA who lives in Randallstown, MD who lost 4 years worth of my database and owes me over $1K. Blows my mind how many awards and testimonials this person has on her site from "big names"...

However, not even the right thing, the process I suggested above, or a letter from my lawyer worked. She even lied to the person who recommended her to me who felt so bad about the situation I was going through that he acted as a mediator.

After talking to her again this year, and hearing her tell me more lies, I have come to the conclusion that this person is toxic and sick.

And I have learned not to send my documents to anyone without taking a copy first! Because people can get something (she agreed that she got it) and then decide not to return it.

PS. Paypal has a limit on the number of days you can complain to them (it's 30 if I remember correctly). I think that's because they know that someone who doesn't perform right away, is going to be a problem and may run away.

So if in the future you have a problem with something that has gone through payapal, initiate a complaint within 7 days.

So sorry you have had to go through this. It is horrible to deal with and an emotional strain.

JJ, anything new happen on this?

JJ I hope this all works out for you. I think you have been very gracious and patient throughout. I would definitely let PayPal know there is a problem.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. We've all enjoyed sharing our thoughts and careers with each other. Let's all determine not ot let one bad incident spoil our trust in each other. What we all have is so rare to find these days, I'd just hate to see it be lost.

I'm getting curious as to who it is. I for one will announce that Beverly never gave me the promised prize for winning the Valentine's contest. I know this is no comparison, since I didn't pay anything ... but never the less I feel ... punked.

Nothing new but I sent the email giving her until May 4. I just find it so hard to believe that someone would deliberatly cheat me. Especially a fellow boomer! I know, you're thinking, "what world do you live in?"

Anyway, I've saved all the emails from the get-go, so no problem there. Paypal's time limit has expired, but I can still complain about the seller, thank goodness and trust me, I will. Also, the Better Business Bureau, and here on the forums, my web page, and several other places across the Internet. I will make no bones about it once I start.

But still, isn't it sad? For such a small amount of money, too. This fact alone should tell me that she had no intention of fulfilling her obligation.

Anyhoo...life goes on.