Posted by: Lynn
My single parent - 01/03/04 09:59 PM
Last Christmas my husband drove my son, mother and father and I over to my sisters house for dinner. We had a nasty snow storm and a 1+ hour trip took 3+ hours but he could not let my folks be alone on Christams day no mater what!
Bless him for this. It was my Dad's last Christmas with us.
This year, I drove my Mom and her sister to my sister's house. My husband did not go due to bad chemo days. My Mom looked a bit shell shocked for the first hour that we arrived. My siblings wanted to know where John was and during all the explaining, I could see that she was thinking the same thing I was. "Just last year we were all together, now your Father is gone and your husband is fighting cancer". "What a year can bring". She had her cry and then we got on with things.
She was hooting with laughter by the time she was opening her gifts.
You never do know what a year will bring. In this case, I am watching my mother become a single parent. She is doing one heck of a job too. I am a little biased but to create a new identity for yourself at any age is hard but after decades of marriage-it is down right admirable. I think she will make it! And it will be a pleasure to see how she molds that person into who she really is.
How have your parents weathered the loss of their spouse?
Bless him for this. It was my Dad's last Christmas with us.
This year, I drove my Mom and her sister to my sister's house. My husband did not go due to bad chemo days. My Mom looked a bit shell shocked for the first hour that we arrived. My siblings wanted to know where John was and during all the explaining, I could see that she was thinking the same thing I was. "Just last year we were all together, now your Father is gone and your husband is fighting cancer". "What a year can bring". She had her cry and then we got on with things.
She was hooting with laughter by the time she was opening her gifts.
You never do know what a year will bring. In this case, I am watching my mother become a single parent. She is doing one heck of a job too. I am a little biased but to create a new identity for yourself at any age is hard but after decades of marriage-it is down right admirable. I think she will make it! And it will be a pleasure to see how she molds that person into who she really is.
How have your parents weathered the loss of their spouse?