If I Vanish

If this is my last post, here is the reason: My husband told me last night that he wants to pay off my credit cards. Okay, I'm getting ready to take my latest statements downstairs to give to him. He might kill me.

Hey wait! Since you're gonna die anyway, could you take mine too? I only have one...course the debt could feed a small country...

JJ

Wait, wait WAIT...Hold up a minute. DONT'T give him all of them...keep the one with not much on it and send it to chickadee c/o p.o. box...

Can I have your shoes?

chickadee

Dianne,
Surely you don't keep those ridiculour little pieces of paper they send you. They're good for nothing but maybe lining Sammie's cage.
Never, and I repeat, never... Don't ever allow incriminating evidence like that to accumulate. Get to the mailbox first then search and destroy.
smile

You are not alone. My husband went through my mail while I was away visiting our daughter. He found I had a high visa bill now he wants to know where i spend all my earnings, othe words he wants all my bank statements. He is trying to intimidate by saying my visa bill will probably cause a lien to be put on our home. I say nonsense. Payments are kept up regularly. I should also add that I pay the majority of the bills in our household as well as my own personal bills. He pays food, hydro, and his own car insurance period. He claims are marriage of 26 years is over if i don't show him the statements. I feel like saying good riddance. He was never like this five years ago he got hit by a car while he was walking in a crosswalk, the next yeara he was diagnosed with cancer, but with chemo he is now in his fourth year of remission and now he is suffering from high blood pressure, and he only takes his blood pressure bills if his pressure is high which in itself is dangerous, but he will not listen to anyone, he knows all the answers. I don't know if being european has anything to do with it. I not making excuses for him just stating the facts. chichii

Ladies you are not their children, you are they're wives, their partners and you also earn money to pay bills. DO NOT be intimidated by these slugs to show them anything. Where then does this stop? If you fold this time you will never regain the power you have now. How dare they treat us like stupid children. Just say NO what can they do. If they threaten to leave say BYE. This typwe of bully never goes anywhere...

In the past two days I spent maybe 2 grand on beads and jewelry supplies at the twice-yearly big wholesale show. I just power-walk the aisles with an open checkbook and a credit card out. The vendors love me because I spend some serious cash.

I won't know exactly what the damages are until I go through all my new "stuff" in the next few days. Of course, it's all amazingly gorgeous and I NEED it, y'know? I really don't spend money on anything else, and this is my business.

My husband, who handles most of the banking, will have a freaking cow when he sees the bills.

He will ask, "Are you sure you need all this sh--? What the ---- are you going to do with all these beads?"

And I will calmly tell him "I plan to make a lot of money this year." And I know yer all behind me

You better believe I'm behind you Meredith.

Chatty brings up a good point. Whe do the men think they control women if we're part of the financial picture? Unless we're overspending.

ATTENTION; I got an email today from Dianne who said to please tell you ladies that her husband did not murder her but that her computer crashed and all she has is a lap-top. So if we don't hear from her for awhile, know she is fine.

Chatty, you got my attention. Glad to hear it. Thanks for filling us in. Phew!

My computer has been healed!

My husband and I share a Merril Lynch credit card, which we're both supposed to use for expenses. However, I have two others that had about a $20,000 balance between the two of them! Yikes! He wanted to pay them off so he could get ready for retirement. He's never complained about my bills and probably because I pay my own. It was just him seeing how much I actually owed that made me a little nervous. But, before I gave him my statements, I told him that I had told all of you on this site that if he killed me, you guys would know about it. So far, he hasn't said a word. But then, he can't really and he knows it wouldn't do any good.

And...NO...you can't have my shoes! I'm going to be buried with all of them!

ChiChi wrote "blood pressure bills if his pressure is high which in itself is dangerous" See? Blood Pressure BILLS instead of PILLS. European has nothing to do with it. Pressure of bills has a lot to do with it. My chemo/surgery was 2 years ago and I'm still paying medical bills. Do I have to pay an anesthesiologist for a bill that took him a year and a half to send? Isn't there a statute of limitations? We're at our limit of med bills. Friends, Pardon me for being sensitive, but I was taken aback by the joking of "he'll kill me." Oh well, I am too serious. The shoes. That's funny. I'm just so sensitive about DV that I can't even take a joke. Love and Lighten Up Lynn

Girl, if anyone is serious about dv, it's me. My current husband would never hit or harm me. Drive me crazy maybe or have a brain eclipse but abuse...nope. Yep, lighten up! Glad you like my shoe remark.

Hi Dianne, thanks for the reassurance about your h! I wouldn't want all those fancy French shoes buried six feet under. BTW: what size do you wear? You could probably go on Ebay, sell a few pair, and make money for your next Paris shopping spree! Love and Light, Lynn

Sell my shoes!!!!!!!!! Not!!!!!!!!!

Hmmm...maybe I could sell my first born instead. A thought.

too funny