Personal choices...

My womens group from church, all widows well lover 50, were talking and came to the conclusion that if we are alone in life now, it is because we choose to be. If we wanted more social lives we could and would have them. In my own life that is exactly true. What do you ladies who are basically alone think?

Good topic for discussion, Chatty.

Clearly I am not widowed, but I have come to the opinion that if I were to find myself in an unmarried state, I would not actively seek to remarry.

Don't misunderstand me, I am very happy in my current marriage to Steve. I love our life. And that's saying a lot, since we are essentially together 24/7. (Except that he doesn't attend meetings with me, run errands with me or shop. So I DO have some time alone.)

But I've been married twice, and my time of child-rearing is done. I think there's a lot to be said for living alone but having a good group of friends -- male and female -- to spend time with when I want companionship.

Now I keep saying this - I've been sharing this opinion for several months now -- but clearly I am not widowed. Maybe I would change my opinion were I to actually find myself alone.

Probably not Anne. I believe we know ourselves better than we think we do. I wouldn't mind someone to golf with or maybe travel with but nothing mushy as my days with that are well over. I just want a good friend, heck I actually prefer the company of women to have fun with.