Sex, anyone?

Aside from the fact that I have absolutely NO libido, I'm a normal healthy 55 year old woman...unless you count the fact that I've been having hot flashes since I was about 35. Am I alone in this or is it natural? Luckily, I'm no longer married (widowed) so there's no man to fend off but I'd love to get that desire back. Any help out there?

Probably only the right man with the right chemistry can bring back that desire....I apparently haven't found mine yet and am happy dating without sex. If it's meant to be, it will be.

Hi Scorpio,

Hot flashes for 20 years...please tell me it's not so. I was kind of beginning to accept maybe 10, 15 was a jump but, 20 just take me out back and shoot me.
No, you are not alone...there's plenty of us around, with various symptoms.

Welcome.

Scorpio, mine comes in stages but most of the time, I could care less. I hate it too! I used to consider myself a sexual being but now, I'm just a being.

Been married for 41 years, haven't had sex for the last three years.
I want it!! But not with my husband.
So........I agree......if it's meant to be......that's ok with me.
Lynne

Gosh, my last message looks like I hate sex. I meant that I hate that I don't care about it anymore.

Three years? Gadzooks!

My sex desire is gone, but accommodate my husband cause his is still going strong.

My husband has been AMAZING LATELY!

In fact, we were in a store, and I was doing my "snotty wife" routine....going,

"I better get choc. covered cherries for christmas"...he said, "it's already taken care of". (hmpf)

So I'm like, "I better get a massage for Christmas"...he's like..."that's taken care of also". Hmpf.

I'm like, "so what's up with you..you've been listening to me drop hints for the past two months of what I would like for christmas?"..

He didn't say anything. However, later in the p.m., he DID reveal how our sex life has him wanting to check the address (is he at the right house? LOL..) Our sex life hasn't really changed much, except I think he feels "better taken care of". I'm always coming up behind him when he's reading and nibble on his neck...he is so cute...he gets goosebumps. I love doing that to him.

Today I'm in HORRIBLE shape (with a "visitor in town") and he's hugging me and telling me how much he appreciates me.

I'm like..."where is my husband and what have you done with him"!

20 years of cultivating this relationship. 20 hard years. Sometimes wishing I could wave my magic wand and have this man adore me. Maybe miracles DO happen.

Danita

[ December 09, 2005, 02:59 PM: Message edited by: Danita ]

Mine is always amazing - but most of the time, I just want SLEEP!!!

((blushing)) lol,

I ment that my husband has been amazingly thoughtful as of late....and I think it is a result of sex. LOL

I hear you! I'm into sleeping also! But sometimes "the shadow" creeps up on me while I slumber, and, well, ya know...

danita

Well now I'm blushing, too!!
The shadow!!!!

Danita you are the lucky one having your own personal M.M.(private joke) and Sherri, wow, you go girl. Three years huh, drop in a hat try since 1990...if I wasn't peeing so often I would think the whole area had grown over by now...LOL See being celibate does affect your mind after awhile!!!!

I love sex, at least I think I still do......

Daisygirl

Is the "shadow" your desire or your husband?

Scorpio,
Maybe you just need the right man.
Sometimes I think- no way- but just relaxing and holding and kissing and touching and the patience of the incredible man I married and I get so into it that I think it was my idea!
And somedays we don't get farther than the holding and the kissing but he understands that too
Sex can last forever-it better!!!

Ever notice how those that have it, don't want it. Those who don't have it want it. Short hair want long hair, tall people want to be shorter, big boobs want smaller ones and vice a versa and ona and on and on, could this just be human nature? Everyone wants what they can't or don't have. Me I want a million bucks, then I could buy the rest>>>LOL

I sure hope it lasts forever! Brad and I will be 80 years old, chasing each other around the kitchen table. LOL

Ditto here.

He's the shadow...I'm just the sleeping, willing accomplice (how in the #$@@ do you spell that word....I can't find my dictionary!) Sorry.

Danita

Hmm...

I'm picturing it...I'm picturing it. Lucky woman!

Di,

You are so cute, and I AM very lucky!

Yesterday I felt just miserable (the "friend" in town, ya know)...we were watching a movie together (which I never slow down to do unless I'm dieing)...and he said...I know what will make you feel better...

(I'm thinking, "ya, riiiiggghhhhhttt")...he goes upstairs and comes down with a box of choc. covered cherries. Wooo hooo party on the couch.

I'm telling you, an alien has inhabaited my man.

Danita

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Originally posted by Danita:


I'm telling you, an alien has inhabaited my man.

Danita

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Yup. That's what I thought, too, 'bout half an hour after the "I Do's".