It helps to look, really look at that person and try to think of what it was that attracted you to them in the first place. Also, it really, really helps to think of yourself as a sexual diva. When you know that you know, everyone else senses it too.

Can't expect to feel the sparks if the sparks aren't really wanted or needed. Sometimes it helps me to look at fashion magazines and imagine what I would look like in some of the clothes. I used to get the acrylic nails, still get pedicures. If I like the way I look and feel about myself, who else wouldn't?

I've been at the grocery store and at work etc and noticed women wearing sandals and they've got that crusty layer of dead skin, sometimes cracked around their heels and their toes look like they've been digging for worms....ugh!

But they'll be dressed to the 9's. Here in FL you notice things like that more because our feet are exposed more. Who wants to kiss toes and get a mouthful??

Men are men, well into their 90's and beyond. Unless their eyesight fails, they live in a fantasy world where every woman is beautiful and sexy.

I try my darndest to love myself and like what I see so that I can walk into a room and a presence follows me. Both men and women notice when I walk into a room. Mom calls it charisma. Some of it is luck, genetics, but most of it is something inside that radiates through your eyes, the way you carry your body, your smile, the way you move, your expressions and the level of intelligence you eminate.

Just some observations over the past 57 years. Some men radiate the same feral, earthy yet sophisticated aura. They are rare indeed! When you find one, don't let him go!!

My grandson'd father says my three daughters and I are irreplacable. I had him define that for me one day. He says that means he goes through women like laundry and has yet to find one like my daughter who is beautiful, intelligent, and has that something more that transcends and makes her stand out above the rest. He doesn't think he will ever find anyone else like her.

I like one of the girls he's dating. I approve of her as a stepmom to Dublin, but who listens to me anyway....