Well, well, it's Divine Danita. It's so true that if/when a man cheats it is about his insecurities and not her (perceived) inadequacies. Yes, Dee, you could write an article about finding love at midlife! I had no idea what a beautiful body I had when I had it. I thought I was supposed to be Twiggy when I was more like Jayne Mansfield. I'm a lot more insecure about the changes to my body than my husband is about his own OR mine. But it's not really about the body, is it? Some experts say that sex begins in the mind. What do you think about that?