I was going to say what LSmith said exactly.

After I had my baby I was so tired the last thing I wanted to see were any relatives. My mom just happened to be shopping with me when I went into labor. If she hadn't been my husband would've called her after the baby was born.

My husband's dad and step mom didn't see the baby until a couple months later. They were much older and lived 75 miles away. The only problem I had with any of it was that there was no immediate greeting by way of flowers or some visible sign. I actually liked my husband's step mother a great deal. I miss her the most. She's been gone almost 7 years now. They spent 11 Christmases with us.

I think in time you'll fit in too because you seem to be such a sweet, caring woman.