I can't answer your question yet, but I must comment on the cheating comment. Men cheat because they cheat. To blame a wife for not feeling comfortable enough with him to express their (her) intimate desires is not fair. And, as you say, if they don't have any at all ("they" being wives, "any" being intimate desires) then I wonder what's with the husband that inhibits her. I'd rather have no sex life and discuss that openly and safely with my husband than to meet his needs (if any) to prevent him from cheating. If a man or a woman's needs are not being met, the most intimate thing they can do is discuss it. But to say that a man cheats because she is not comfortable discussing just does not sit right with me. What's with him that he can't make her feel comfortable and safe discussing the subject?