foundhervoice and startingover, maybe you two need to begin private messaging one another for support. Just listening to one another's stories may ease the pain.

startingover, I am so glad your pastor is wise. Keep going to him for support. I love foundhervoice's suggestion of focusing on the future. Just think of placing all the energy you are using on this divorce on another positive topic like how you want to live the rest of your life when all this is behind you. What a great idea.

You are both in my thoughts and prayers. I wish I had better words, or knew how to hlep...