Anne,
There is so much that I am learning about positive thinking and Law of Attraction. One thing is about reality. There are so many aspects of reality that you can choose to focus on...let's take relationships out of the equation for now and look at something else...money...
When I focus on my lack of money, then I actually keep myself in debt or broke or both. As a man thinketh, so is he...and yet if I look at my bank account and I only have $5.00 left after I paid the bills and I want to buy groceries...then I can easily say...but it's the truth...I'm broke...I have to focus on that...but to do so only keeps me broke...so what I do is to find another aspect of reality to focus on...there's always another truth...So I look at the fact that--the bills are paid...I look at the fact that I've managed to keep my bills paid on time...I look at the fact that there is food in the freezer and cabinets that I can eat...I look at the fact that I've always made it before...something like that. I know they don't sound like big differences but they are...and they are true as well.
Write down your thoughts such as:
I'm broke and there isn't any money to buy groceries.
My bills are paid and I have money left over. There's even some food in the house!
Notice the difference in how those two sentences feel. One feels discouraging and the other feels more hopeful but they are actually both accurate statements of my reality!
These subtle differences in thoughts and feelings are what changes your reality. No, I won't have $2,000.000 overnight but there's a good chance that next month all my bills will be paid and I'll have more than $5.00 left over and as I focus on the fact that the bills are paid and there's money left over it becomes more and more my reality.
Relationships work in similar ways. We attract others to us based on our overall vibration. You may say that your reality is that you have dated men who turned out to not be who you thought they were and that men can't be trusted...and this is a true account of your reality. But you can also find other true aspects of your reality to focus on...
I personally have some trust issues from past relationships and with good reasons but I really want to get beyond those now...one of the things I focus on is that I'm not the same person that I was then...that I believe in myself more and know that I am attracting honesty from others...
You can look at couples that you know who are happy and say, "See, there are some good men...and I know there's one for me!" Just don't follow it up with, "But they are all taken!" that sort of counteracts what you want! Look for evidence of honesty (not dishonesty) in everyone you come in contact with...and when you see it...get excited...proof positive that there are honest people in the world...
I hope this was helpful. I know it can be confusing and I would love to talk with you about this over the phone...I have unlimited long-distance and will be happy to call you...just pm me a number and a couple of times that would work...
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Jane Carroll
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