Sandra, I want to thank you for the advice you gave Meredith. I have been pondering something about a relationship I've been in for sometime. You made a statement that jumped out and hit me smack in the face, it was that you and your husband don't need one another but you want one another...This evening I will be saying good-bye to someone I was needy for, not someone I wanted. Kind of like a bird in the hand is worth one in the bush. What a crock! I hope Meredith saw the wisdom of your statement, I did, and thank you....Life's too short to settle for second best.