Ann, I know how you must feel. We are in a similar position with my Mom as well. My brother and I take her for her Dr. app'ts. She has had a couple of falls recently, nothing life threatening but she loses her balance now and then. She has some part-time nurses aides coming in a couple of days a week, but we are sure that will increase soon. Nevertheless, J.J. is right, pick up a notebook. I have had one that I keep with me at all times. I bought it a year ago and write EVERYTHING down. All Dr. app'ts, results, medication problems, Aides comments, insurance info, absolutely everything. It has been such a help, it was worth the trip to Staples! Good luck, this is a difficult time for many boomers in the sandwich generation.