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#80236 - 11/21/05 10:06 PM Re: Geraldo Rivera Show
Dianne Offline
Queen of Shoes

Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
Geraldo At Large and Fox carries him. I can't get it here. Darn! They promised to send me a tape of the show. They might, for times sake, edit some of the interview out but we'll see. At least, some of you can watch it.

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#80237 - 11/21/05 10:09 PM Re: Geraldo Rivera Show
Dianne Offline
Queen of Shoes

Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
Chick, it doesn't bother me to talk about dv. I have always emotionally removed myself...I have to or I'd be nuts. I did tell his producer I'd rather not talk about my own case of abuse because I was bored talking about it and it was nothing spectacular. I'm over it. I wrote the book on it.

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#80238 - 11/22/05 12:02 AM Re: Geraldo Rivera Show
Princess Lenora Offline
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Registered: 11/11/04
Posts: 3503
Loc: Colorado
Hi Dianne, I'm glad it went well. How did the GR show get your name to interview? If you live in Nashville, where did you go for the interview? Did he come to a studio near you? I can't believe I don't get his show in my area. Let me know when you find out it is archived on the internet, okay?

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#80239 - 11/22/05 09:53 PM Re: Geraldo Rivera Show
Dotsie Offline
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Registered: 07/09/08
Posts: 23647
Loc: Maryland
I'm calling my sister to see if she knows when it's on.

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#80240 - 11/22/05 10:29 PM Re: Geraldo Rivera Show
Dianne Offline
Queen of Shoes

Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
It's archived but it's a shortened version and my interview wasn't included.

They found me on the Internet, believe it or not. Put in a search for domestic violence and went to my site. Did more research and even knew what I looked like. Interesting. I thought they had found me through my publisher. Listen, I have an unlisted phone number and they still found me. Shows how much privacy we really have.

We did a satellite/cable interview. He was in NY and I was at the Nashville Fox station. You sit in a small room with a camera man and a camera and have an earpiece to hear him. It's difficult to talk to a camera like it's a person. Very difficult.

For those of you who will someday very soon also be on a national television show, I'll give you heads up on this: You will have very little time to prepare. I was called Sunday morning and did the interview Monday morning. With Montel, I was called, they overnighted my airline tickets, and I was in NY in two days. They move quickly once they've decided on a show so always be prepared!

I want to add how thankful I am to God that after five years from my publishing date, He is still opening doors for me.

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#80241 - 11/23/05 03:01 AM Re: Geraldo Rivera Show
Princess Lenora Offline
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Registered: 11/11/04
Posts: 3503
Loc: Colorado
Hi Dianne, I am so very disappointed that yet again I miss you in action. Oh well. I am very grateful that I get to "know" you as a true friend, although we have never met in person. We know each other better than many people we have met in person, wouldn't you say? That is awesome that they found you. Just awesome. It is meant to be, and proves yet again that God chose you for the work that you are doing. I've heard that you don't get paid for interviews, but in your case your payoff will be 1) in book sales 2) in the unknown value of helping unseen women. I am also disappointed that the archive does not include you. Yikes! National TV shows don't give much prep time? Interesting! Also interesting and scary how little privacy we really have. Excellent work Dianne. Bravo, kudos, love and light, hugs and kisses to you girlfriend!

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#80242 - 11/23/05 02:09 PM Re: Geraldo Rivera Show
Dianne Offline
Queen of Shoes

Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
YOu don't get paid for interviews.

We do have a strong connection. I think it's because of the abuse factor. You have to have been there to understand the dynamics.

Thanks Lynnie!

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#80243 - 04/20/06 04:22 AM Re: Geraldo Rivera Show
Maritza Offline
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Registered: 02/16/06
Posts: 53
Loc: Miami, Florida
Dianne,
I logged in out of curiosity. I used to work for a program called "Safespace" in the Miami, Florida area back some 20 some years ago. I started as a counselor "running groups" and later worked as a social worker at the same place dealing with cases that involved children... 2 cases I will never forget; 1. a lady who realized her father was abusing her daughter because the little girl started humming a song the grandfather would hummed when he was abusing her/his daughter... ( talking about old habits...). Case 2. was a woman who had been at the center numerous times, but after getting set up with all kind of services, she would always go back to the abuser. Last time I saw her he had held her at the apart. for days, beating her up until she passed out, then would give her a bath, ask for forgiveness, feed her, care for her, and then, started a fight and do it all over. What got to me, was the fact that this individual had taken a shaving razor, and had tick tack toe on her back as part of his ritual. Last I heard she had gone back and he killed her shortly after...
I have not gone into your web, but I will. Most people I have encounter on that situation always think that they can control the situation by keeping quiet, doing everything to prevent a particular situation from escalating, feel responsible in some kind of way that they have contributed to the arguament at hand-- if i had not done this, or said that, etc., feel that they can change the person with lots of "love and understanding=putting up with the abuse, nor reporting it to the police,not filing charges, and not getting out of the situation, because that would be "stating" that this love is not real or strong enough. their self esteem has been destroyed, told that they are stupid, ugly, lazy, no good for anything, and nobody would want them... by now half their teeth are gone, nose is probalby flatten or broken so many times, that is it sideways, have scars, feel insecure, and have probably not worked outside the home for a while. Those who do work, are not "allowed" to relate to anyone,or have friends. this can be easily managed my insulting them in front of other people, forcing herself away from other as to hide the bruises, cuts, and prevent embarassment...if they have fam. they have broken off from them because the fam. have grown tired of helping her out, or giving her advise, and shelter so that she can get on her own; only to see her go back and back and back...It is a difficult cycle to brake. Most people think of the times the abuser cries and asks for forgiveness, that little bit makes them feel a false sence of empowerment, they probably had sex, and make up, only to start again. the woman feels jealous that she may lose this "sensitive" man, that cries and begs, thinking thatit means that he really loves her, he is just confused or going through a tough time...
I later decided to work at a theraputic community for substance abusers; I was in charge of phase 1, " breaking the image".Most of the cases were part of a court agreement. Instead of a full term jail sentence, go into rehab... ( is this a choice taken for change, or an easy way out? ). For the last 20 some years, I have been working as a school teacher at an inner city public school. I used to ask myself if I was now making a difference in preventing the above situations if the children I became in contact with, were given the opportunity to express themselves, and find their creative or innate talents,given support,and a caring ear...I have learned that these are not victims but survivors, it takes tremendous inner strenght to be able to preform at any level when the situation at home is disfuntiional. Great potential and inner strenght; problem is that most of these kids assume that their situation is "normal" and that it is the same for everyone else. They lack the other side of the story, a basis as to by which to compare.
they adapt, and eventually this situation becomes part of the daily funtional system..."and beat goes on..". I admire those who have broken the chain of dependency on any type of disfuntional relationshid, and like I said befoe, these are not anyone's victims, they are strong willed, smart, secure if in nothing else-- in knowing that this is NOT want they want. They usually have to fight lack of money, lack of emotional support, loneliness, insecurity, and fear of failure. However, they are like the lotus flower,who in spite of the dark waters, are able to bloom into beutiful flowers...

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#80244 - 04/21/06 03:10 AM Re: Geraldo Rivera Show
Dianne Offline
Queen of Shoes

Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
I appreciate the work you have done and are now doing.

During the honeymoon phase when the abuser is asking for forgiveness, buying gifts, yada, it is the only time the woman feels she has any say or control. For that short amount of time, she is in charge and it becomes a high that they look for and hope that it will stay that way but it doesn't.

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