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#77181 - 01/21/06 05:30 PM
Re: Mama's Fishbowl
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Dotsie, my mom's life was more like the younger woman's and my life was more like the younger woman's mother.
We had role reversal. She's always telling me her troubles and expounding on how much better my life is than hers was. Even with the stroke my husband had almost a year ago, I realize she is right. There will always be minor set backs and disappointments, boring or sad days, but nothing like her experiences. Many of the bad things she experienced were the result of her own poor choices. I think she has never allowed herself to acknowledge that fact. [ January 21, 2006, 02:33 PM: Message edited by: ladybug ]
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#77184 - 01/22/06 11:02 PM
Re: Mama's Fishbowl
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Don't get me wrong she had tough times too at fist when married but was surrounded by family and never alone or afraid because everyone lived in the same building for many years, her parents, sisters and their familys. Then when buying a home she was in a neighborhood where everyone knew each other, watched after each others kids, doors didn't need to be locked, thing like murder, serial killers, kidnappings didn't happen to you or the people you knew and didn't happen so frequently either. People respected their leaders and government and had high work ethics and standards. It was all just better in those many ways. She got divorced at the urging of us kids, after years of being the dutiful wife and mother. She remarried her true love and they had a wonderful, almost magical love affair. Working together daily, traveling, just spending every waking moment together and loving it. My step-father passed away after 20 years with mom and her life just seemed to stand still. Her parents were both dead, her sibblings were scattered about, she moved to an apartment and seems to just exist day after day. She works, comes home where she feeds and visits with my epileptic brother and although she has numerous friends and is so well loved and respected even today, I truly believe that when she buried my step-dad, her one true love and apparent soulmate, she buried a part of herself as well. Her heart!!!
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#77188 - 02/02/06 01:55 PM
Re: Mama's Fishbowl
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Fishbowl... Inspiring story. Great neighborhood, Chatty! Sweet story of your dear mom!
My mom's description of a town just a half hour away from where I currently live, is very similar to your mom's neighborhood: Late 50's- early 60's, there were only or mostly christians living there. No crimes, people lived without the constant reminder of violence, etc. Windows and doors unlocked day and night... She visited her brother who was studying at AUC. That's where she met dad!
Although today, it is still a very good place to live, nobody leaves doors unlocked anymore!
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