KC, this is soo weird. We have another new member named Sandi who lives in Jupiter FL too, and she says she recently found a long lost niece! She also wrote about the loss of her brothers in the "Loss" forum. Is this a coincidence? If it's any consolation, my family and I have been able to reconcile some ugly issues from our past and we have become closer in our mature years. I hope your birthday is special all day long! Lynnie